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What you’ve missed

14 Monday Jun 2010

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption, Dave, Emma, Family, Frankie, Friends, haiti, Journey, life, mission, Uncategorized

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Camp, Haiti, life, Ministry, Parenting

Oh my.  Yes it has been that long.  So instead of taking a month to blog about it, here is what you have missed…

  • We are full on in camp.  Dave is with Student Life this week and Rush of Fools at Wake Forest University.  I’m wishing I was there.  Emma’s with him.  I don’t think she slept last night dreaming of camp.
  • Wayfarer camp.  Week one was a great success.  It’s amazing what a group of people and can accomplish when you work together.  Loved being a team. Met some great new people.
  • Talking about camp.  I thought I’d figured out a way to never do housing or connect groups again.  No such luck.  Housing was fun and I’m busy into housing this week for our next Wayfarer Camp next week at Anderson University.
  • Loved knowing Dave and Reichley were able to catch up with 3DM.  I was sad I missed them.  We are always blown away after having any conversation with them.
  • Emma lost her front tooth last night.  She looks hilarious!  I’m happy but sad at the same time.  They are growing up way to fast.
  • Talking about growing up and making some major decisions…  we heard Sam Norris was baptised Sunday.  So proud of that little man and his life.  Brings much joy to my heart.
  • Trying to figure out a way that our family can start hosting people in our home.  No clear pictures yet on how that will happen but it’s exciting.  Just need a few more bedrooms.
  • Frankie is IN LOVE with his daddy.  A wonderful but not so good thing when daddy is gone all summer.  He had a 1 hr cry fest on his way home from camp missing him.
  • Talking about camp, Frankie seemed to enjoy his first experience.  Not too sure of the  loud music or why daddy was on a stage but hey… he’ll figure it out sooner than later.
  • Izzie won’t stop talking.  She wakes up talking and goes to bed talking.  She is having a hard time with her “r” sounds so she is constantly cracking me up.
  • Playing tennis in 95 degree heat is probably not a smart thing to do in the heat of the day. But I’m still so in love with the game.  It keeps getting better.
  • Hot Hot Hot.  If you live in the South then you know what I’m talking about.
  • Pool time is a regular for us.  The kids would spend hours there if I would let them.
  • Excited about some new adventures with this company.  Can’t wait to share more soon.
  • I know a celebrity!  Kristen from Rage Against the Mini Van and adoptive mom and friend is heading to NY Tuesday  to be on the View this Friday I think.  She’ll be talking about blogging and adoption some of my favorite things.
  • Blogging, oh how I love you.  Check out my new blog title in case you missed it.  So long Chapter Two.  Hoping for good things in store for Fingerprints on my Walls.  There is a purpose for the title as the next few years unfold.
  • I’m missing Haiti.  My heart thinks of it everyday.
  • I miss my Haiti connection friends in Houston, Tampa, Austin,  Little Rock and PA and CA and MI.  Why can’t we all live in the same town!  I guess I’m really thankful for blogging and facebook.
  • Some people in the Wayfarer Family are expecting…  Finally!  Will be good to have more babies running around soon.
  • Tried the Spicy Chicken Sandwich and well, it was too spicy for me.  Dave Loves it.
  • Thankful to DVR Toy Story for the kids.  Finally some “boy” themes instead of princess around here.
  • Everyone keeps talking about their beach trips. Would give anything to take off my shoes and go for a stroll.
  • I’m making rice crispy treats for a shower tomorrow night… I’ve never made them before.  Lame I know.  I’m thinking I’ll just buy them!

Blessings Friends.  I’m back at it once again.

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Look what I just found on facebook?

01 Sunday Mar 2009

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption, Frankie

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Nate is in Haiti and I believe just took these pictures yesterday or today.  I don’t know who Nate is or why he is in Haiti but I’m sure glad he took the time to post some pictures of the kids at Maranatha.  Ugh I miss Frankie.  I’m loving his hair right now and see those crocs?  I took him those in January when I went.  So glad he’s getting much use out of them.  And the sucker… well as you can tell he loves them and loves making a mess with them.

This mom is so happy that Frankie is happy and life for him is full of friends and lolly pops and people that love love love him!

I miss you today

27 Friday Feb 2009

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption

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I was just was able to download this video last night.  I got a lot of footage of Frankie while in Haiti.  A lot of it is personal and not for everyone to see but I did want to share this one.  So many people are supporting us on this journey and are sharing in our story so I wanted to put some realness to this process we are walking through.  There are no words that can describe the love our family and this mother has for this little fellow.  It’s hard watching this knowing we have at least 2 more years of waiting.  As much sadness this brings to me today it also brings with it so much joy.  This is our son and we are so blessed to have him in our lives. 

I don’t have any more updates on where we are in the process.  We are still currently waiting to be entered into IBESR.  Although hard we are truly thankful that we even get the opportunity to wait.  Because it’s in the waiting that we know this whole journey is out of our control and in the hands of our loving father who knows each step of the way.

Someone’s Missing

21 Saturday Feb 2009

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption, Family, Frankie

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We had a fun night last night.  The girls and I went with G-ma and Kayleigh to walk around the mall.  It’s been a LONG time since I’ve stepped foot inside a mall with girls in tote.  They were wonderful and the best thing is that we walked out with nothing and everyone was happy.   But the whole evening I kept thinking to myself…. someone is missing… I was often thinking about Frankie.  I think about him all the time but some days more than others.  Last night just was one of those nights.  We’ll have a fun family night and there is a space in our lives where it’s just not complete.

I follow A LOT of adoption blogs.  I have found such wonderful blog community with other families who are in an adoption proceess through Haiti and are as like we are, in the waiting…  I thought it was interesting as I looked at the titles of their latest posts this morning….. It’s just good to know that we are not alone.  That we are all in this together.

  • I could not resist
  • I want to cry and scream
  • Adoption Update
  • Journey of love makes my day
  • What people see but often miss
  • Attempting to be proactive
  • Haitian Carnival
  • Grace
  • Breath of Life
  • This is Hard
  • Friends to Journey with

Needless to say I find much comfort and rest in the story’s of others journey’s.  It really brings out a range of emotions for people.  I’m waiting for an update this week on where our files are at and what is currenlty happening.  No news is always good news.  In three months it will be May and May is the month that ignited this adoption process for us.  I really can’t believe it’s coming up on a year of the beginning of this journey in our lives.

I miss you dearly Frankie….  Wish I could be in the same room with you right now and tell you for the millionth time that Mamma loves you.  And in our waiting to do life together I pray for you that your days would be filled with so much happiness and love and that our hearts would be given daily peace as we wait for the unknown process that we walk day to day.

Why Haiti Changed Me On My First Visit

11 Sunday Jan 2009

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption, haiti, Hope

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15 years ago?  It was the summer of my junior year in High School.  I took a trip to Haiti with an organization from a nearby town in upstate New York.  I had never been out of the country.  My first trip to Haiti changed my life forever.  Liciajust posted this post (I’m including the entire post here as well.)  Haiti changed me.  It was the most eye opening place I’ve ever visited but to this day one of the most enchanting and beautiful places as well.  If you have never been to a third world country my desire for you no matter what age you are now that you do it.  Just one time.  Let the expereince change you.  Let it show you how un-normal your life really is.  Haiti for almost 15 years has haunted me in a really good way.  There is a reason that this past May on our trip that 4 couples from that trip are now in the adoption process….  The Parkers, The Ivey’s, The Hyatts, us.  And others like Crystal have already been back to serve.  It changes you.

I’m celebrating my 33rd birthday tomorrow.  (that dreaded post will come tomorrow)  I should be excited that I am 33 years young.  But the thirties have hit me hard.  In my mind I think that my life is just passing me by.  I have so many things that I have yet to do and wonder if I’ll ever attempt to even start them.  Do you ever feel like that?  Needless to say,  tomorrow will come and go but it’s always the glaring constant reminder to me that there are so many things that we can all do so that Hope Sees, Faith Moves, Love Gives.  And seeing other people’s journey’s.  Being able to see Haiti through other people’s eyes like Licia’s keep me going and daring to believe that this very abnormal life of mine can have maximum impact in the life of others both near and far to me.

 

From Licia – One a recent walk in the village I took a picture of this little girl.  She is five years old and was making food for her and her siblings.  She lit the fire by herself and was making something for them to eat.  There were no adults around and when I asked the kids  told me the yhad went to the local openair market to sell their produce from the gardens.  This is how my first son was burned.  Exactually–bending down to blow on the fire to get it going.  His shirt caught on fire. 

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These are the kids that are waiting on her to fix the food.  She was also watching them until the parents got back from the market.  I talked with a few people around the house and when I asked why a adult was not there, they laughed.  You see this is what is expected of her.  She does it daily, weekly, monthly for her siblings.  They were not laughing at me to be cruel, they were laughing because this is reality for them.  No stove to cook on, no running water, no nice green grass to run in and play, no toys, no pop tarts, no snacks, no floor just dirt, no pretty pink bedroom with everything matching, no …um wall to the side of the house,  you get the idea. 

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I do not tell you this to feel sorry for them.  I do not want you say that is so sad.  These kids are happy.  They love their parents, the parents love them.  I want you to come and let Haiti change you.  I want you to realize that your life is not normal.  That is not how most of the world lives.  You do not need running water, ice, a soft bed, and things to make you happy.  You need love.  You need some to care about you.  When you go and visit a third world country, which you all should, let Jesus come out of you and go into the people.  Do not go to change them, let them change you into what God desires you to be.  Let them see Him in you.  Love them like He would.  Care for them like He would.  What an opportunity we have to show His love to some that seem unlovely to us.  I’m waiting on you?  Are you ready to be changed?

Prayer Request for our Dossier

15 Monday Dec 2008

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption

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We just got the following email yesterday from our contact at Heartline…… 

“I learned on Friday that Junior was unable to put Frankie’s dossier into IBESR as the mayor’s office has not yet released the paper which declares Frankie as abandoned.  This is the last paper for your dossier to be submitted – yours and two others are being held up here. 

I have felt pressed to forward this information to you so that you could be praying that God would give us favor – and we would receive the papers.” 

Would you join our family this week specifically praying that the Papers needed from the Mayor’s office would be released so that our dossier can be placed in IBESR?

Hope for Ronel

08 Monday Dec 2008

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption

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Looking for a way to help out a family in need?  Meet Debra.  I went to Haiti with her this past May.  She is an amazing person.  Her family is in process of adopting Ronel who is currently at the Rescue Center with Lori and Licia.

A very long story short… in Haiti adoption world, new laws are going to start to be followed and what that means is that families NEED to URGENTLY get in their dossier.  That means the Parker family.  They are working very hard but as you can read by her last post that they could use some help.  So if you are looking for some stocking stuffers this Christmas why not think about getting this fabulous shirtand help a family be part of making a difference in Ronels Life!  I just ordered mine!

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Following the Journey of others……

22 Wednesday Oct 2008

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption, haiti

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I follow many blogs.  Thanks to my Friend Jamie who showed me how to use Bloglines… now I follow too many blogs!  Well not really but it makes my little time I have to catch up with people very efficient.  But the reality for me is that I LOVE a journey.  Could you tell?  I’m sure some of you want to tell me… “stop talking about journey Kim!”  Anyway, since I love journey’s I love getting a glimpse at other peoples and so the need to follow lots of blogs!  The other day I was catching up with Keri.  She is adopting a little boy from Haiti and she gave the following post.  Her words were so perfect on her feelings of being in Haiti.  I often try and describe Haiti to people and fail miserably.  How do you really explain the beauty that is found there in the reality of their conditions as I compare them to mine here.  I don’t know but wanted to share Keri’s words today.  Keri, hope you don’t mind!

you can’t go to a third world country and at some point not compare it to your own………i wondered why haiti was what it is and how america is what it was………yes the answers are complex and weaved together in a pattern not at all times comprehensive………..and then i began to ponder evolution and adaptation…….many may look at haiti and the united states and claim the states far superior………a light in a dark world…….while haiti is a quagmire of political unrest and an ignorant unevolved people……..and as i daydreamed in the back seat while being driven at threatening speeds going up impossible hills i thought it is not about evolution at all but adaptation………how the people of haiti have adapted to circumstance………how their life in a sense is no different my mine…..we each play our part in the hand we have been dealt…….they are the poorest country in the western hemisphere……..but they wake up each morning…as do i…they go to sleep each night…..as do i…..and in the middle they survive……as do i…….and you may say hey wait a minute …….your survival is a lot easier then an orphan baby in haiti………and i would answer yes in some aspects a full refrigerator……clean water and public sewage systems……make my life cleaner and healthier…..but what have i adapted too……..an ingratitude for my freedoms…….a taking for granted that i can turn on my tap and drink until full………a country so full of “made in china stickers”……..that i would dare assume that to god haiti’s garbage and our stuff look the same in his eyes……..

i am not bashing america’s prosperity (i believe we were given much for a reason)….. but what i am trying to say is when things come easy……there is no learning…no adapting….no critical thinking………and people become soft and obsessed……when you have to walk miles for water… shoeless over rocks…..you get blisters…those blisters turn to callouses…….the rocks don’t hurt as much……….

but here i am…..coming to haiti to take one of their children…….to give the child what they don’t have……..i make the child’s life easier…………..but how do i teach them hope…….when their bellies are filled comfortable in our home…..how do i teach them perseverance when there is nothing lacking…..how do i teach them community when we don’t really need each other and we like our privacy too much…..there are small lessons in each of these but you are not learning them in the context of an all out war between life and death………

but because i was born in america and have what i have …..i am able to share…….do you become poor to share in the poor’s suffering…….no ….but to some extent yes………i give up my vacations and mercedes convertibles and enormous mortgage(personal choices..)……to adopt a child that is in need of me…….i give up designer clothes and cell phones and a superfluous social life(personal choices)…..to adopt a child that is in need of me…….and in turn i find out i am in need of them… and i need what their parents could not teach them because the water got too dirty and the food finally ran out………………

many people don’t understand the poverty in haiti…they look away in disgust….or judge the people as lazy illiterate good for nothings………i think the heart in what i am saying is in the short time i observed the haitians i realized we each have much to share with the other…………we were a very young country once….like haiti…struggling to survive…..but in our greed and evolution we wanted people to do the work for us……i believe haitians want the same freedoms but their land has been raped and their banks emptied…..and america’s history shares in that crime………….i don’t know how to solve the problem…adopting orphans is not the answer…..but a way too the solution…………

going to haiti was not shocking for me…..it was what it was…..and i accepted it…..and i adapted……i am not taking eli out of misery but bringing him to love……..everyone needs loved

There are so many families out there adopting children from Haiti and other countries as well.  I’m working to update my blogroll with the families I follow but again, just need to find time in the evenings to do that.  But please pray for this family and for Eli.  That he would get to come home soon. 

It’s ready…..

07 Tuesday Oct 2008

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption

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I really hope you don’t think I’m crazy.  Lately I think that I may be.  I know that the FedEx guy thought I was when I about kissed him today and made him take a picture with Dave and I.  So here is the deal.  If you’ve done a dossier before you understand hopefully and if you have not then you really may think that I am crazy.  But today was a REALLY big day for our family.  Our papers arrived back from getting Legalized in Chicago and they are ready to go on their way to Haiti.  I’ll be making photocopies tomorrow and then on Thursday we are spending lunch having our some of our friends pray over these papers and then we’ll send them on their way Thursday afternoon.  4 months of tracking this down.  Feels like it took me forever.  I’m sure you are sick of hearing about it.  But today was a monumental day for this family in regards to our adoption journey.

Dave was thrilled his crazy wife dragged him in for a picture:

Ever wonder what I’ve been talking about???  Here it is, in all it’s Glory.  “THE DOSSIER”.

Each of these documents have been collected, notarized, translated to French, sent off to get state authenticated and then sent off to get legalized to use in the Haitian courts… It took me four months. 

We Could Use Your Help

05 Sunday Oct 2008

Posted by kimrhodes in Adoption, Family, mission

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Many of you have been following our adoption journey on my blog or on Frankies site and know that we are about to be sending our dossier to Haiti in the next week.  Sending that dossier is the first major step in our financial commitment to bring Frankie to our home.  In trying to meet that step we are applying for grants, interest free loans, making personal sacrifice as a family and now also asking for your help.  To be honest this is tough for us.  Both Dave and I are somewhat private people and we don’t like to impose our private needs on other people’s lives. And yet we are also largely community people who believe in investing in the lives of others and inviting others invest in our lives. 

With that said, many of you that are reading this blog are part of that community.  Some are more intimately connected to that journey than others but all still helping us write our story with our lives.  And so we want to let you know as authentically as possible that we could use your help.   We know there is more than one way that you have and will contribute to this journey.  Many of you have been such a huge encouragement already with your words.  Many of you have been praying for us since we started this process.  Already many of you have told us how you would like to help financially and now we feel we need to open that opportunity up to you.  So from two indirect people this is our indirectly direct way of saying that honestly we could really use your financial help.

Again, this is not something that we want you to feel any pressure or obligation to do. We know that times economically are tight and even a little scary right now. We understand that every dollar is a precious decision of how it is best used. And we know that many of you have your own needs in the journey that God has called you to. However,  this is simply one way that we are continuing to invite you in to our journey.  So, Dave and I are very humbly asking if you would consider partnering with us financially in our journey to bring Frankie to be a part of our family. We estimate the total journey to be between $13-16,000.00. This first step is roughly half of that investment. Because both of us work for Wayfarer, Wayfarer has generously allowed our family to set up an account through them so that anyone who wants to give to this journey will be able to receive a tax write off for your contribution.

Two Ways to Give:
1. Donate on line through Paypal


2. Send a Check to Wayfarer.
Make Check out to Wayfarer and note that it is for the Rhodes Family Adoption Fund.
Mail to:
Wayfarer
Attn: Rhodes Family Adoption Fund.
116 Hidden Hill Rd
Spartanburg, SC 29301

Thanks for letting us share with you.  Please keep coming back to my blog or Frankies for updates.  We appreciate each and everyone of you.

Kim and Dave

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